Mea Culpa: Clarifying The Definition Of Rapeon August 21, 2012 at 5:16 pm
Yesterday, I posted this picture in response to Todd Akins’ ridiculous assertion that women can’t pregnant during a rape:
The point I was making specific to this picture is that, according to Akin, Paul Ryan and a disturbing number of Republicans, is that if this woman were to have gotten pregnant that would mean it wasn’t “real” rape.
However, a reader, Heather J. pointed out that I was unintentionally helping the douchebags on the right perpetuate their “forcible rape” story:
From Heather J.:
I don’t agree with having this picture as a clear message about rape, and here is why…. This incredibly sad, horrific picture implies that rape is extremely violent, and it is, however, not everyone bleeds, not everyone is held against their will with a weapon other than sheer fear and control, not everyone who is raped suffers the external extent of violence that this picture suggests, BUT IT IS STILL RAPE! This is where the confusion comes in for so many women!! We find ourselves (not PUT ourselves) in situations of rape, but still blame ourselves because “I’m not bleeding, so I must have done something wrong” or “There was no gun or knife (I was still scared out of my mind), but who would believe me without “serious” injury?” See what I am saying? Date rape,marital rape, violent rape – is ALL STILL RAPE!!! And it’s all still WRONG!
Thank you for all that you do – Your page is my absolute favorite! I left that in because it made me feel less depressed – FLS
And she’s right; it does. The idea that a woman asked for, deserved, enjoyed or allowed her rape is pernicious and insidious and it’s very easy to reinforce that narrative even without meaning to. As a counterbalance to the violence of the above rape and the implication that some rapes don’t count because women secretly want it, here’s my favorite anti-slut shaming picture:
Conservatives are a group of sad, sick people who have a deep seated loathing of women and sex. I can’t think of any other excuse for what they say. Just so we’re clear, if she says no or is unable to say no for any reason, that’s rape.